Two years ago as she stepped into her job interview, saw a confident overwhelming single man. "God! What a gentleman?" she thought. Few days later she was working with him in the office, weeks later they became friends and months later they became the "perfect couple." She was living the happiest days of her life thinking that she has found the Mr. Right. Gradually heaven turned to hell and he broke up with her. Five months later he was back with the most romantic surprise and all the sorry cards, gifts, flowers, messages and everything to win her heart back. Her mother said no, her best friend said no way and people who really cared were afraid, but she agreed and they got engaged. Three months later, she broke up seeing all the problems repeating themselves. The hope is not able to change neither him nor her. Now she is in the phase of "I still love him," "we can solve our problems."
This relationship has not survived more than a couple of months, do you think ok worth reconsidering? Is it right to pull back in relationships with so many problems? When to draw the line and never look back again? The answer is very important to each one of us because so many people lose years of their lives trying to work out an illusion.
Relationships issues are a case by case scenario, nothing is concrete, but statistics show that relationships with many breaks usually don’t work. The case where it might work: when the failure was unrelated to your attraction or personalities but caused by outside circumstances. Absent such extenuating circumstances, analyze what went wrong the first time, assume a similar dynamic will arise again, and then determine whether that dynamic is feasible in your current life.
Problems between couples may result from external factors or internal ones, may result from communication problems or character conflicts and above all change of one side.
In a relationship two souls unite together to share their lives aiming for a better life. Each one has his own desires and dreams. Also each one has his own unique characteristics split between what is nice and what is bad. When two are in love and committed they agree that they've accepted each other fully. But there are characters which are if found any of the couple, usually destroy it all. Selfishness is on the top of the list. When your couple is selfish, you'll be living a life of "me, me, and me" all the time. Your life would have to revolve around his needs, desires, moods and everything. Imagine you have wrote down all your conversations in a note, then took of "me, mine, I'm," from it, the book would be left empty. Selfish people plan for themselves, cry on themselves and also feel happy only for themselves. If you have not succeeded to change your couple till now and living in hell, it is better to turn your head away.
The back bone of successful relationships is honesty, respect and love. Couples lean on those characters in their hardships. They help couples go on. Usually, honesty problems lead to disrespect and disrespect throws love away. Draw the line when you have a serious honesty problem. If your loved one lies in small issues, be sure he would lie in big ones. If he is neither straight forward nor clear, better stop there immediately.
The deepest and everlasting love is the love of the soul and not the body nor the style nor the feeling of love itself. If your loved one does not see your true value which lies within you and not outside, then a dangerous bell rings here. Simply, all other things may change or vanish. Your body changes as you grow older, you could not be in style every second of your life and the feeling of love he feels with you, he might witness a similar one with someone else. The soul is the only one which lasts forever and stays as it is.
The capstone of all the above is if your loved one has switched tracks. If he is no more the one you promised to continue your life with, draw the line. A mission and a concrete set of values guide people in their lives. In most cases couples agree on those things before they commit. They may have neither agreed directly nor have said them out loud but deep inside they know they are taking the same road. When one change, the gap enlarges, communication system breaks down because each of you would be speaking the language of his values and mission.
Be careful to be fully aware of yourself before entering a mature relationship. Explore yourself. Know what you really want to do with your life, because you may end up being the one who closed the door or had the door closed before him.
This relationship has not survived more than a couple of months, do you think ok worth reconsidering? Is it right to pull back in relationships with so many problems? When to draw the line and never look back again? The answer is very important to each one of us because so many people lose years of their lives trying to work out an illusion.
Relationships issues are a case by case scenario, nothing is concrete, but statistics show that relationships with many breaks usually don’t work. The case where it might work: when the failure was unrelated to your attraction or personalities but caused by outside circumstances. Absent such extenuating circumstances, analyze what went wrong the first time, assume a similar dynamic will arise again, and then determine whether that dynamic is feasible in your current life.
Problems between couples may result from external factors or internal ones, may result from communication problems or character conflicts and above all change of one side.
In a relationship two souls unite together to share their lives aiming for a better life. Each one has his own desires and dreams. Also each one has his own unique characteristics split between what is nice and what is bad. When two are in love and committed they agree that they've accepted each other fully. But there are characters which are if found any of the couple, usually destroy it all. Selfishness is on the top of the list. When your couple is selfish, you'll be living a life of "me, me, and me" all the time. Your life would have to revolve around his needs, desires, moods and everything. Imagine you have wrote down all your conversations in a note, then took of "me, mine, I'm," from it, the book would be left empty. Selfish people plan for themselves, cry on themselves and also feel happy only for themselves. If you have not succeeded to change your couple till now and living in hell, it is better to turn your head away.
The back bone of successful relationships is honesty, respect and love. Couples lean on those characters in their hardships. They help couples go on. Usually, honesty problems lead to disrespect and disrespect throws love away. Draw the line when you have a serious honesty problem. If your loved one lies in small issues, be sure he would lie in big ones. If he is neither straight forward nor clear, better stop there immediately.
The deepest and everlasting love is the love of the soul and not the body nor the style nor the feeling of love itself. If your loved one does not see your true value which lies within you and not outside, then a dangerous bell rings here. Simply, all other things may change or vanish. Your body changes as you grow older, you could not be in style every second of your life and the feeling of love he feels with you, he might witness a similar one with someone else. The soul is the only one which lasts forever and stays as it is.
The capstone of all the above is if your loved one has switched tracks. If he is no more the one you promised to continue your life with, draw the line. A mission and a concrete set of values guide people in their lives. In most cases couples agree on those things before they commit. They may have neither agreed directly nor have said them out loud but deep inside they know they are taking the same road. When one change, the gap enlarges, communication system breaks down because each of you would be speaking the language of his values and mission.
Be careful to be fully aware of yourself before entering a mature relationship. Explore yourself. Know what you really want to do with your life, because you may end up being the one who closed the door or had the door closed before him.
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